To loosely quote a well-known movie, motherhood, “is like a box of chocolates”. You never know quite what you’re going to get. Some days it’s delicious, sweet bliss and other days it’s bitter and gritty. You wake up every morning hoping for a treat and wait with bated breath for those first few moments to set the flavour of the day. It’s like popping a Revel sweet in your mouth and praying it’s one you like! You carefully negotiate the first moments of your day, trying to please the toddler and the mini-tween, (my term for 7-9 year olds) hoping to set the tone for a good day and then realise it’s out of your hands and you are completely at their mercy. This is the point you surrender to sweet coffee and try to block out the screaming!
Motherhood is like walking a very faint line between two worlds, on one side is the happy Pinterest-style ideal and on the other a den of hungry lions. You teeter along the line, briefly dipping a toe into either side here and there but for the most part you try to remain on the path, in the middle, solid ground.
There’s nothing like motherhood to bring you down to earth with a bang! Any ideas you had of dressing a certain way or living a particular lifestyle are suddenly cast aside for functionality and the needs of your new dependent little human! It’s like loving a Mint Crisp chocolate bar but buying a Dairy Milk to share because your friend hates mint, every single day! You may not like it as much but its a compromise, and compromises can buy silence in toddler-land, however only if it’s you that makes the sacrifice ha ha!
There are days where its blissful, smooth and comforting, like dipping a Galaxy in a hot cup of tea. Those days are the best. It need not be a great adventure type of day, it can be saved in small moments. A picnic in the garden, a movie with popcorn, a splash in the bath. Any moment that brings happiness and joy to your children is sure to lift your day, especially when they are squealing with delight instead of shrieking in temper! These are the moments to savour, to hold on to, feel in the depth of your belly and the bottom of your heart. These are the moments that pull you through the bad days.
The bad days, o the bad days. Obviously it can’t be plain sailing every day. Children are new to the world and are trying to discover as much as possible each day and push every boundary they can! It’s all about discovery, like in a sweet shop they want to try every flavour!
This adventure, while exciting for them, can be a tough break for mom and dad. While on their great journey, inevitably there are places to go, things that need to be done, should never be done and things that should have been impossible! All of this can cause friction as you try to keep them safe, fed, clean and happy- children don’t always want to stop, to stay in one piece, eat or bathe!
As the days melt into each other it can sometimes feel a bit bland, a bit “meh”, but these are the times you need to stop and do something just for you, ‘taste the rainbow’ so to speak!
Remember that when you take care of you, you are not only going to be a happier, healthier mom, but also a great role model!
Yummy Mummy Tip
Make sure you whet your appetite every so often with something that keeps you feeling fresh, be it something wild like a sky-dive, or something mild like a new book!